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Ami's avatar

Happy Birthday! #1 is a huge part of awareness of self- past and present and awareness/noticing behavior is the first step to change. Staying present in my wise adult more and more consistently is always the goal (the rest should flow after). My favorite from Janina Fischer:

commitment to the belief that we heal ourselves through access to the innate capacities for compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, courage, calm, confidence, and commitment to all of our selves.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Love that!! And thank you!

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Maliha Shaikh's avatar

Happy Birthday Layla!!! I connected with “start collecting embarrassing moments like badges of honor.” I run away from embarrassment and that triggers an inner dialogue that is quite damaging.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you! And facing what icks you out in the face will be extremely empowering. Even if you have to fake it, don't flinch at your reflection

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Khadijat Abdulazeez's avatar

Stop saying you’re hard working, start saying you’re disciplined.

I love that.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Give yourself permission to refer to yourself as disciplined, major game changer

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Ludy's avatar

Happy Birthday 🎁🎉🎊, and yes to all of these. It’s quite interesting when you’re on to yourself and the awareness level is making you see almost all of the ways that you’re numbing or self sabotaging. The most important part for me has been consciously allowing joy. I can delay joy in my work or daily routine as if I have to earn it anew each day. Nervous system regulation helps with that. I’m lucky in that the work I choose to do- does give me joy - but I have so much flexibility and freedom in how I schedule my day. That I can escape through meaningless joyless business often,

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you! Allowing joy is a great one -- and finding joy in the little things

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Leena S.'s avatar

Happy Birthday!!

What resonates the most is probably nervous system regulation. I've been trying to work on that lately and definitely see the value in disarming my fear centre.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you!! It's a tough one, but a worthwhile one

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Jeanne Arnold Moursund's avatar

#5 — Protect your Energy

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Crucialll

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Walyullah's avatar

Happy bday!!

The one that hit the most is adopt your goals as your identity. And then the part about no one really cares that much.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Yesss -- once you start saying you are something, you have set the expectation that others see you as that thing. It is really powerful

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✧ brooklyn 𓆏's avatar

great advice!

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thanks, Brooklyn!

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Stevie Ada Klaark's avatar

🪩🪩🪩

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Nasuha Darke's avatar

Thank you for all of these lessons. Amazing

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Bethany Farchione's avatar

Thank you for this! So much to think about… then do!

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Claire Strickett's avatar

To worry less about making "the right decision" and more about making the decision right

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