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brothas listen's avatar

Failure is a precursor to success, its almost never the other way around.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Literally! And once you accept failure as a milestone for success, it hurts so much less

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Ola Albayati's avatar

As always, this was a great read! I really look forward to your articles. As someone who struggles with procrastination and emotional regulation, I found this very helpful. One quote that really stood out to me, especially as someone who finally managed to deactivate her Instagram (something I never thought I would do), was:

"I recently learned that scrolling lights up the same part of the brain that pulling a slot machine does. The anticipation of what’s next keeps you excited. TL;DR, we are addicts — but are gambling with our lives. And until we get a grip of it, we are cooked."

Gambling is haram lol. Stop gambling with your life.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

YES stop gambling indeed!!! Thank you!

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Share Your Perspective's avatar

Fail, fail, fail Again. It keeps us interesting. Thank you for this!

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Totally agree

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Liz Stack's avatar

the identity piece has been a huge unlock for me!

"I am someone who moves daily" "I am someone who makes art" etc. etc. etc.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Yesss, you are an artist and and athlete!

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xo's avatar

amazing

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you!

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Sapphirezz's avatar

Ms. Layla this is a great article yet lovely, feels like a mini section article TEDx. I love it🤓🫰

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

What an awesome comment - thank you!!

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Thanh Ngan's avatar

This article means so much to me 🌝 Thank you for sharing such precious knowledge with us ~ Hope to read moreeee 🫶

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thanks for coming, I hope you subscribed and stay! Now go get it!

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Tracy Dockerty's avatar

Great article thank you!

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thanks, Tracy!

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Noreen's avatar

This is actually a tremendous insightful talk because...it is giving me an anchorage that i am atleast not in a bad direction and actually helping me improve my way of approaching things...so im grateful....

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you!!! Go get it

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ayse's avatar

I really enjoyed this article, thank you so much for the time you have invested in this !

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Erica Meriggi's avatar

Thank you 😊

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Thank you!!

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Farha Salim's avatar

Thank you! Such a helpful reminder. I guess sometimes from childhood we pick up the perfection part, over the being-human part, and end up not knowing what human looks like. Eg: You know that you have to get a job done. You allot it a set amount of time. And you end up lost and confused why you have emotions, or why they even slow you down, when the job doesn't end on time.

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

Everyone faces the feelings! Very normal! And fighting them is hard and crucial. Otherwise the feelings will set the pace and goals

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Tan Ratanaksambath's avatar

I have a request, could you cover a topic about metacognition (if you're interested)

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Layla Shaikley's avatar

A fascinating topic! Let me mull on it, I like the direction

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ayse's avatar

I resonate with this article in so many ways and in some ways it also opened my eyes.

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